Sunday, February 20, 2011

Tips To Promote A Trusting Relationship

By Jean B. Moore


Everyone needs to learn the art of communication. This involves meeting new people, conversing with them, and eventually gaining their trust. All these are needed in all aspects of our lives - from our careers to our love lives - relationships are essential to living within a community. Here are five ways to help you gain someone's trust:

Remember that trust is earned. The first time you meet somebody, always assume a measure of suspicion. Assume no one is likely to give trust automatically and that it is natural to be suspicious about a person you just met. I mean, if it were the reverse, wouldn't you be suspicious too?

Never lie. Telling a lie and getting caught assures you that you will never gain their trust and that you will lose all your credibility, so why risk it? You don't have to reveal your whole life story but at the same time, you shouldn't say anything that is not true. There is a way to avoid answering questions you don't want to answer and a simple, "I'd rather not discuss that" and then changing the topic should do.

Be interested in the other person. Hold a real conversation where you actually listen to the other party and not just keep talking about yourself.

Value their thoughts and feelings. You don't have to agree with all that is said but make sure that you are respectful even when you disagree with their point of view.

Try to match the person's conversational style. By mirroring a person's body language and speech pattern, you are more likely to gain their trust.

Mirroring happens when two people like each other. It is very common to observe it in couples who are in love. This technique can also be used in normal conversation. By matching a person's speech patterns you make them comfortable and at ease. This allows them to give you their trust.

Remember, the end goal is not gaining a person's trust but making your relationship grow. Once you gain trust, it is important to honor and respect it.




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